Myself and two partners are in the process of buying a building (we have a contract on it) and we have a great budget and business plan written for a 24 hr diner downstairs and a lounge/bar upstairs. I own a home and the other two rent. We have very little money to put down and would like to find a place to help with a loan. We are supposed to meet with the SBA local office this week. Any thoughts, advice? Thanks!How do I get a business loan with little or no money down?
try
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Hello Everybody,
My name is Mrs Symone Roland and i live in the CANADA , life is worth living right now for me and my family and all this is because of one man sent by GOD to help me and my family, i once had a life filled with sorrow because my first daughter needed a kidney transplant and all our savings were going towards her medications and this normally leaves us with no money to pay our bills or even put enough food on our table and our rent was due and no funds to pay these bills and life felt so unfair to me and every night my daughter will cry herself to sleep every night until one day, i was browsing through yahoo answers and i saw a striking advert of a man that gives out personal loans and that the offer is opened to all and i have heard so many things about internet scams but at this point of my life, i was very desperate and ready to take any risk and at the end of the day, i applied for this loan and from one step to another, i got my loan within 48 hours through bank transfer and you know, it was all like a dream and i called Mr Frank Petti who is the GOD sent lender i found and said, i have received my loan and he smiled stating that to GOD be the glory and i was so shocked as i have never ever seen anyone with such a GOD fearing and kind heart and today, i am the happiest Woman on earth because by GOD'S grace, my daughter kidney transplant was successful and today she is healthy and i and my family are living very comfortable and happy and if you are in my former situation or is in serious and legitimate need of a loan, you can reach this GOD sent lender via frank_petti@yahoo.com
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A friend of mine has hit in hard times. Had to move and has no stove or frig. How can she get help?
She gets food stamps and has a part time job which pays the rent but not much more. She has 2 children 14 %26amp; 8. No car though. She's taking it a day at a time but laundry, tp, toothpaste etc. are a problem too. She needs help with the basics.A friend of mine has hit in hard times. Had to move and has no stove or frig. How can she get help?
habitat for humanity is a good place to startA friend of mine has hit in hard times. Had to move and has no stove or frig. How can she get help?
places like a food bank also help with more then just food - ck out hopelink and see if they are in your area ...good luck to her and god bless
Maybe if she happens to speak Spanish, just have her to go to the Nearest Government building and tell them what she needs. I'm sure she will get fixed up.
She can try her local church or charity or she can even call her social worker at social services and see if they can help her. Good Luck:)
Get to craigslist, free section, go through it. Usually there are fridges and stoves listed. All your friend will need is someone to help pick them up for her.
Have her/you check out freecycle.org in her area.. You can check your city or surrounding locations... Everything on the site is given away for free.. She/you just need to pick it up... Also, look at local churches, missions, salvation army, goodwill to get other necessities.. Like food and basics.
good luck....
I live in Pennsylvania, where we have low income housing, they take 15% of what you earn for rent, and provide you with a home based on your needs.
If she is REALLY poor, the low income housing project may even pay HER to live there, and take care of her bills (excluding phone and TV).
go to her or any local church they usualy help tell her call the welfare office and ask who helps with those kinds of things but i know if she goes to a church they will help her even help with bills sometimes.catholic churches help the most.
habitat for humanity is a good place to startA friend of mine has hit in hard times. Had to move and has no stove or frig. How can she get help?
places like a food bank also help with more then just food - ck out hopelink and see if they are in your area ...good luck to her and god bless
Maybe if she happens to speak Spanish, just have her to go to the Nearest Government building and tell them what she needs. I'm sure she will get fixed up.
She can try her local church or charity or she can even call her social worker at social services and see if they can help her. Good Luck:)
Get to craigslist, free section, go through it. Usually there are fridges and stoves listed. All your friend will need is someone to help pick them up for her.
Have her/you check out freecycle.org in her area.. You can check your city or surrounding locations... Everything on the site is given away for free.. She/you just need to pick it up... Also, look at local churches, missions, salvation army, goodwill to get other necessities.. Like food and basics.
good luck....
I live in Pennsylvania, where we have low income housing, they take 15% of what you earn for rent, and provide you with a home based on your needs.
If she is REALLY poor, the low income housing project may even pay HER to live there, and take care of her bills (excluding phone and TV).
go to her or any local church they usualy help tell her call the welfare office and ask who helps with those kinds of things but i know if she goes to a church they will help her even help with bills sometimes.catholic churches help the most.
What is the cost of living in Singapore? How much salary is a good salary for a couple with a toddler?
Which areas are good to live on rent? Is it easy to get a domestic helper and at what cost? Is it easy to find a good nanny for my baby?
Thanks for all ur help.What is the cost of living in Singapore? How much salary is a good salary for a couple with a toddler?
Living in a private condo with maid, 2 adults with a toddler, probably cost S$ 8k a month.
It's easy to get a maid, but mostly from Indonesia.What is the cost of living in Singapore? How much salary is a good salary for a couple with a toddler?
Depending on what standard of living you are looking for. For a couple with toddler, a combined income of about $6k will be reasonable if you prepare to rent a hdb 3 rm at $1,800 or lesser if you rent a room for $600 to $800.
However if you are looking at a higher standard of living, you may need at least $10k a month.
This really depends on your expectations and lifestyle. There are options for every kind of budget.
There's some good general advice on relocating to Singapore on the Contact Singapore website:
http://www.contactsingapore.sg/home/inde鈥?/a>
This covers housing, domestic help, etc.
good luck^^
Your 1st few questions are very broad, I shall help you with just the last question.
Professional nannies do not come cheap (about $2500/mth). They're mostly employed thru word of mouth and are generally from Malaysia. Maids are mainly employed for dosmestic work but may double as nanny if u're ok with it.
Singapore is not cheap. Read this guys breakdown of Singapore with kids:
http://sg.theasianparent.com/phpbb/viewt鈥?/a>
there r many good areas for rent; regarding domestic helper n nanny check in the classified section newspaper; singapore is the 10th expensive city in the world
sg vey expensive
Thanks for all ur help.What is the cost of living in Singapore? How much salary is a good salary for a couple with a toddler?
Living in a private condo with maid, 2 adults with a toddler, probably cost S$ 8k a month.
It's easy to get a maid, but mostly from Indonesia.What is the cost of living in Singapore? How much salary is a good salary for a couple with a toddler?
Depending on what standard of living you are looking for. For a couple with toddler, a combined income of about $6k will be reasonable if you prepare to rent a hdb 3 rm at $1,800 or lesser if you rent a room for $600 to $800.
However if you are looking at a higher standard of living, you may need at least $10k a month.
This really depends on your expectations and lifestyle. There are options for every kind of budget.
There's some good general advice on relocating to Singapore on the Contact Singapore website:
http://www.contactsingapore.sg/home/inde鈥?/a>
This covers housing, domestic help, etc.
good luck^^
Your 1st few questions are very broad, I shall help you with just the last question.
Professional nannies do not come cheap (about $2500/mth). They're mostly employed thru word of mouth and are generally from Malaysia. Maids are mainly employed for dosmestic work but may double as nanny if u're ok with it.
Singapore is not cheap. Read this guys breakdown of Singapore with kids:
http://sg.theasianparent.com/phpbb/viewt鈥?/a>
there r many good areas for rent; regarding domestic helper n nanny check in the classified section newspaper; singapore is the 10th expensive city in the world
sg vey expensive
How can I kick my sister out of my apartment?
My sister is 30 years old and lives in my apartment. She has a job but makes very little money, just enough to get by. She works 40 hours but has no education to get a better job. She has lived with me for 5 years now since my father died but pays no rent. She can only afford to pay her car, insurance, and some of the house bills. I don't know how to get her out when she does not have the financial means to get her own apartment. What can I do to help get her out on her own?How can I kick my sister out of my apartment?
Encourage her to move to a town where her 40 hours of paid employment will go further than it is now.
I find it hard to believe that she has not gotten a cost of living raise or that after 5 years her car is not paid off.
I think she is spending her money elsewhere and you are getting stuck with supporting her.
It's called tough love - not easy, but don't you deserve a chance at using your money for you?How can I kick my sister out of my apartment?
I hate to put you on a guilt trip, My wife and I have a 33 son who we threw out 10 years hoping it would wake him up, it didn't, we still support him. I also know 2 woman who had younger sisters they had to support but they finally gave up. The 2 younger sisters killed themselves . I could never live with myself if that happened to our son. There's really no good answers. Good Luck.
If you want to ';kick her out'; the mean way, you'll have to do like landlords do and go to court to get an eviction notice. Even if she pays no rent she has claimed residency there and you can't just decide one day to toss her.
It sounds like she needs to get some public assistance for housing and other things, like food stamps. There are places in your area that can help her find affordable housing or help her obtain Section VIII that helps pay the rent based on income.
Good luck!
let her know she has 30 days to vacate and save and get out otherwise in september ur filing eviction papers to have her removed. give her a couple of weeks to save up. just keep buggin her so she gets sick of your nagging and finally leaves. shes 30 she needs to grow up and pay her own way like everyone else.
why not have her help pay rent?
or
you can serve her with a 30 day notice to vacate.
or
you can help her save money to move out...but you will probably continue to help her as time goes by.
good luck
have her look into getting a second job....why does she NOT pay rent..is she on the lease...where else is her money going...u have to look at the big picture b4 u just send her packin....there are laws and things and just kicking her out may back fire..look at ALL your options and try to talk to her...is she trying to mooch off of you...are you scared to say something...it might be tough but u have to try or u will be miserable and broke...why do you want to kick her out...so many questions...and if she dont have money now how will she have it to get an apt..maybe she will have to get a second job then save and move out....its alot to think about but if it bothers you then you got things you need to take care of..
what is she spending money on that she can't afford any rent? that should be the first bill she pays. Does she have credit card debt? Does she go out partying every weekend? DOes she spend money on cigarettes? If yes, lay down the law - give her 6 months to start paying fair rent or she has to leave and find another roommate. Tell her to get a second job if necessary.
I not trying to judge but, something isnt adding up here. Working 40 hours a week at minimun wage should give her enough money to pay you something. Anyway, if you have an apartment in your name and she is just living with you with no kind of agreement, it will be considered month to month. In the state that I live in, we are required to give a 2 week written notice. Check what your state requires. If what you are telling is the truth, again im not here to judge, Bring it up to her, work it out and give her a chance to start paying you. All in all though, I know how it is to live with horrible room mates and life can get really bad, sometimes for your own sake it is better to get rid of them
Tell her she will have to pay some rent. You should not have to support your sister. She should be willing to get a second job to cover her expenses.
Encourage her to move to a town where her 40 hours of paid employment will go further than it is now.
I find it hard to believe that she has not gotten a cost of living raise or that after 5 years her car is not paid off.
I think she is spending her money elsewhere and you are getting stuck with supporting her.
It's called tough love - not easy, but don't you deserve a chance at using your money for you?How can I kick my sister out of my apartment?
I hate to put you on a guilt trip, My wife and I have a 33 son who we threw out 10 years hoping it would wake him up, it didn't, we still support him. I also know 2 woman who had younger sisters they had to support but they finally gave up. The 2 younger sisters killed themselves . I could never live with myself if that happened to our son. There's really no good answers. Good Luck.
If you want to ';kick her out'; the mean way, you'll have to do like landlords do and go to court to get an eviction notice. Even if she pays no rent she has claimed residency there and you can't just decide one day to toss her.
It sounds like she needs to get some public assistance for housing and other things, like food stamps. There are places in your area that can help her find affordable housing or help her obtain Section VIII that helps pay the rent based on income.
Good luck!
let her know she has 30 days to vacate and save and get out otherwise in september ur filing eviction papers to have her removed. give her a couple of weeks to save up. just keep buggin her so she gets sick of your nagging and finally leaves. shes 30 she needs to grow up and pay her own way like everyone else.
why not have her help pay rent?
or
you can serve her with a 30 day notice to vacate.
or
you can help her save money to move out...but you will probably continue to help her as time goes by.
good luck
have her look into getting a second job....why does she NOT pay rent..is she on the lease...where else is her money going...u have to look at the big picture b4 u just send her packin....there are laws and things and just kicking her out may back fire..look at ALL your options and try to talk to her...is she trying to mooch off of you...are you scared to say something...it might be tough but u have to try or u will be miserable and broke...why do you want to kick her out...so many questions...and if she dont have money now how will she have it to get an apt..maybe she will have to get a second job then save and move out....its alot to think about but if it bothers you then you got things you need to take care of..
what is she spending money on that she can't afford any rent? that should be the first bill she pays. Does she have credit card debt? Does she go out partying every weekend? DOes she spend money on cigarettes? If yes, lay down the law - give her 6 months to start paying fair rent or she has to leave and find another roommate. Tell her to get a second job if necessary.
I not trying to judge but, something isnt adding up here. Working 40 hours a week at minimun wage should give her enough money to pay you something. Anyway, if you have an apartment in your name and she is just living with you with no kind of agreement, it will be considered month to month. In the state that I live in, we are required to give a 2 week written notice. Check what your state requires. If what you are telling is the truth, again im not here to judge, Bring it up to her, work it out and give her a chance to start paying you. All in all though, I know how it is to live with horrible room mates and life can get really bad, sometimes for your own sake it is better to get rid of them
Tell her she will have to pay some rent. You should not have to support your sister. She should be willing to get a second job to cover her expenses.
Upstairs neighbors stomping on purpose! Help!?
My upstairs neighbors are driving me nuts. I have been living in this hellhole for the last 2 years. I am working on moving out, but financially it is not possible now. I work a overnight shift, so I sleep in the day. These suckers upstairs are day laborers and barely work and never leave the apartment. If they do leave it is a constant running up and down the steps and back again. Currently as I am typing, they are stomping. If I had a car, I would sleep in it just to get away from these fools.They blast music, stomp, walk in steel boots, drop heavy stuff on the floor and liter my porch with cigarette butts and beer cans. Constantly yell and scream in foreign languages. They bring there friends over from down the street and party every damn night. I complained to the landlord and manager several times, but it does no good. They only care about rent checks. Now the noise has gotten worse. A few minutes ago, someone up there was doing jumping jacks over my bedroom. I hate these people and they are ruining my peace. I am tired of hitting the ceiling with my broom. My apartment is small and they occupy the whole top floor. I go into the kitchen, they slam cabinets, I go into the bathroom and as soon as I run the water or flush the toilet, I hear them run in and start thumping. I turn on my tv and they will proceed to stomp over the spot. I am tired of this bs. I have no money to move, landlord refuses to do anything and the manager kisses their ***. It is a 4 bedroom upstairs and they pay $1300 per month. I only have a studio apartment and pay much less obviously. I was told they were moving out to get a house, but changed their mind. If they like to make noise, why the hell would you live in a apartment? How convenient. They can stomp over my head every day and there is nothing I can do. How can people be so rude. Please don't say call the cops because they don't care either.Upstairs neighbors stomping on purpose! Help!?
Oh Boy! You have no idea how much your question hit home with the situation that I USED to be in with my upstairs neighbor. I too slid a note underneath his door. I tried speaking to him face-to-face. It wasn't until I sent a certified letter to the Landlord and cc:d the a**hole on it that he realized how serious I was. Finally, the Landlord contacted him immediately about his excessive noise and thank God it stopped. If your Landlord refuses to help you, you can take matters into your own hands and take these people to court OR you can live with the noise.Upstairs neighbors stomping on purpose! Help!?
Your problem is one of etiquette, but not your own. Unfortunately, unless you want it to get worse, you shouldn't say anything further to them. The landlord should take care of the problem. If he won't, well then I would say you should call the police and let them explain to your neighbors and landlord about noise ordinances.
If you've talked to your landlord, more than once, and have not gotten favorable results, then it's time to talk to a lawyer. Doing so may make it better for someone who moves in after you move out.
Throw eggs at their windows. Hit the ceiling harder with a broom! Tell the landlord! Do EVERYTHING you can to make it hell for them too. If that doesnt work, then just get out of there.
kick some ***...tell ur landlord
If you can't call the cops,can't complain to your landlord and can't move out,you're screwed. You have to do one of the three. Honestly,
in your place I would continue calling the cops every time they have friends over and I would contact my representative on the City Council to ask for advice.
Move out as soon as possible and pray you never have neighbors like that again!
I had the same problem, when i confronted my neighbors about the stomping and excessively loud radio it only got worse!!!
My landlord said there was nothing they could do...I eventually just waited out the 3 months of my lease and moved out!
I never lived in a downstairs apartment again!!
Wow i can understand why you're so frustrated. They sound really impossible, insufferable people.
If I was you, I would start getting my own back. They know that by winding you up, (something they seem to enjoy), they are causing you to react, and you're letting them know it's annoying you by hitting the ceiling with a broom, thus causing them to carry on annoying you further, because they like it.
Instead of reacting, give them a huge taste of their own medicine. Play your favourite CD's really loud at random hours of the day. Scoop up all the cigarette butts and beer cans and put them on their porch or near their door. Turn up your TV loud, sing, slam doors - whatever, just make sure you're making just as much noise as they are. However, it can be hard to be rude and inconsiderate if you're a nice person, which you sound like you are, but just remember how annoying they are to you.
Second option: Don't retaliate whatsoever. But, get a video camera or your phone recorder or whatever, and record evidence of them making excessive noise, and if possible, try and film them. Take pictures of the cigarette butts and beer cans, and anything else they've done. If you get evicted for an unfair reason concerning your neighbours, or you manage to find cops that actually care, it'll be really helpful, and evidence means it won't just be your word against theirs. Good luck.
Oh Boy! You have no idea how much your question hit home with the situation that I USED to be in with my upstairs neighbor. I too slid a note underneath his door. I tried speaking to him face-to-face. It wasn't until I sent a certified letter to the Landlord and cc:d the a**hole on it that he realized how serious I was. Finally, the Landlord contacted him immediately about his excessive noise and thank God it stopped. If your Landlord refuses to help you, you can take matters into your own hands and take these people to court OR you can live with the noise.Upstairs neighbors stomping on purpose! Help!?
Your problem is one of etiquette, but not your own. Unfortunately, unless you want it to get worse, you shouldn't say anything further to them. The landlord should take care of the problem. If he won't, well then I would say you should call the police and let them explain to your neighbors and landlord about noise ordinances.
If you've talked to your landlord, more than once, and have not gotten favorable results, then it's time to talk to a lawyer. Doing so may make it better for someone who moves in after you move out.
Throw eggs at their windows. Hit the ceiling harder with a broom! Tell the landlord! Do EVERYTHING you can to make it hell for them too. If that doesnt work, then just get out of there.
kick some ***...tell ur landlord
If you can't call the cops,can't complain to your landlord and can't move out,you're screwed. You have to do one of the three. Honestly,
in your place I would continue calling the cops every time they have friends over and I would contact my representative on the City Council to ask for advice.
Move out as soon as possible and pray you never have neighbors like that again!
I had the same problem, when i confronted my neighbors about the stomping and excessively loud radio it only got worse!!!
My landlord said there was nothing they could do...I eventually just waited out the 3 months of my lease and moved out!
I never lived in a downstairs apartment again!!
Wow i can understand why you're so frustrated. They sound really impossible, insufferable people.
If I was you, I would start getting my own back. They know that by winding you up, (something they seem to enjoy), they are causing you to react, and you're letting them know it's annoying you by hitting the ceiling with a broom, thus causing them to carry on annoying you further, because they like it.
Instead of reacting, give them a huge taste of their own medicine. Play your favourite CD's really loud at random hours of the day. Scoop up all the cigarette butts and beer cans and put them on their porch or near their door. Turn up your TV loud, sing, slam doors - whatever, just make sure you're making just as much noise as they are. However, it can be hard to be rude and inconsiderate if you're a nice person, which you sound like you are, but just remember how annoying they are to you.
Second option: Don't retaliate whatsoever. But, get a video camera or your phone recorder or whatever, and record evidence of them making excessive noise, and if possible, try and film them. Take pictures of the cigarette butts and beer cans, and anything else they've done. If you get evicted for an unfair reason concerning your neighbours, or you manage to find cops that actually care, it'll be really helpful, and evidence means it won't just be your word against theirs. Good luck.
How can my son get out of his apartment lease?
We live in Texas, and my son moved in with a friend of his, and his friend's mom two years ago. They (not my son) are always late in paying rent, utilities, ect. Their electricity is turned off every month because of this. His friend is lazy and won't get a job, and my son just signed another 14 month lease. My son and his brother (my other son) are planning to rent an apt together somewhere else, but need to get out of this lease first. Are there any loopholes or something that can help him?How can my son get out of his apartment lease?
wow. Please tell me why the son signed
another lease?
And yes, he has two options available to him
and he can use them both, rather than
a or b only--
a; Son needs to immediately sue the non-payment tenant roommate. There is no friendship lost.
b. Have you son find a new roommate
that will sign a new type of lease;
in this case, YOUR son is the landlord.
YOUR son can get any prospective
tenant who will accept it--the tenant's boss
to pay the rent direct to him thus creating
a SANDWICH lease. YOUR son is the
landlord during the length of time HIS
lease exists with the real landlord.
YOU can also check his lease to see if there is an ';available early exit
lease payment option.'; I am guessing there
is not.
if you wish further help, I am an
expert in landlord tenant law.How can my son get out of his apartment lease?
Did someone drop your son on his head, causing him to lose consciousness, while he was signing that 14 month lease ? What on earth was he thinking, signing such an extension with the conditions you are describing ?
Unless the landlord allows him to exit the lease, he's stuck for another fourteen months. Something isn't really adding up here. Why did the landlord offer a lease extension if these other folks are as bad as you claim they are ?
he signed another lease - I assume he likes it there.
However, I'm betting that he is just lazy himself - WHY, because I'm guessing that Mom does everything for him.
Cut the string and let the kid move on with his life.
It depends on the landlord..Sometimes they are cool, and let you out of the lease if you can find someone to take your place and sign a new lease. So basically you have to do their job and fill the apt..
Have him talk to the landlord/apt manager. A lot of times they will allow someone to be removed from the lease if they know that the remaining tenants can pay the rent on their own.
http://www.texastenant.org/
no loopholes
wow. Please tell me why the son signed
another lease?
And yes, he has two options available to him
and he can use them both, rather than
a or b only--
a; Son needs to immediately sue the non-payment tenant roommate. There is no friendship lost.
b. Have you son find a new roommate
that will sign a new type of lease;
in this case, YOUR son is the landlord.
YOUR son can get any prospective
tenant who will accept it--the tenant's boss
to pay the rent direct to him thus creating
a SANDWICH lease. YOUR son is the
landlord during the length of time HIS
lease exists with the real landlord.
YOU can also check his lease to see if there is an ';available early exit
lease payment option.'; I am guessing there
is not.
if you wish further help, I am an
expert in landlord tenant law.How can my son get out of his apartment lease?
Did someone drop your son on his head, causing him to lose consciousness, while he was signing that 14 month lease ? What on earth was he thinking, signing such an extension with the conditions you are describing ?
Unless the landlord allows him to exit the lease, he's stuck for another fourteen months. Something isn't really adding up here. Why did the landlord offer a lease extension if these other folks are as bad as you claim they are ?
he signed another lease - I assume he likes it there.
However, I'm betting that he is just lazy himself - WHY, because I'm guessing that Mom does everything for him.
Cut the string and let the kid move on with his life.
It depends on the landlord..Sometimes they are cool, and let you out of the lease if you can find someone to take your place and sign a new lease. So basically you have to do their job and fill the apt..
Have him talk to the landlord/apt manager. A lot of times they will allow someone to be removed from the lease if they know that the remaining tenants can pay the rent on their own.
http://www.texastenant.org/
no loopholes
My mother n law is coming help?
My ex mom in law is coming from overseas . My ex and I live about 1 hour travel distance apart .
He has a 1 bedroom apartment and I live with my mom . I work part time and have the kids with me .
My ex mom n law wants to stay with me . My mom is retired and said NO she needs to stay with her son as we are both on lower incomes and my mom is NOT interested in having my ex mom here except to drop in for a visit .
My ex mom n law is angry she can not stay here and my ex keeps trying to put pressure on my mom and I which I am resenting .
My ex mom wants to spend quality time walking the kids to school etc I told my ex she could book a hotel we only have a few hotels close by and they are pricey....... my mom n law can afford it quite well as she plans to stay in a 5 star hotel before she leaves indulging her self .
I have told my mom n law no and she asked if she could offer my mom some money my mom said NO .
My mom n law asked for the names of friends of ours who live locally or prehaps my other relatives if she could call and ask them if she could stay and she would pay half the hotel price.
My mom n law cant get it through her head and is angry my mom wont let her stay .my mom allows my ex husband to come and stay weekends to visit the kids so I dont have travel 1 hour plus.
What can I do I can not afford to rent a place for my ex mom n law but told her she could rent a holiday house for the month in the area we live and we would come and stay . she said she cant afford it but we all know she can she doesnt want to pay when she can stay somewhere for free .
Any ideas how to diffuse this situation . Last discussion was my ex mom in law was told by my ex to stay with him the whole time she is visiting and i would bring the kids to visit and take them out of school a extra day here and there while she is here.
both children are young and dont like to stay over night with dad which is why he comes here . I am going through alot so my kids can spend time with their Nana and Dad .My mother n law is coming help?
If the home where you stay with your kids belongs to your mom. And she has said 'no' to your ex-mother-in-law. Then there is nothing you can do about it. Because it's not your decision. It's your mother's. And she has already decided.
According to family law, only the parents have parental and visitation rights. And grandparents don't have any such rights at all. Which means that your ex-mother-in-law is in no position to demand visitation of the kids on her own terms. If you have full custody of the kids. Then you have the final say whether she even gets to see the kids or not.
It's best to keep peace in the family for the sake of the kids and everyone else. But you can't please everyone, when people disagree. You just need to remember that your ultimate responsibility is the welfare of your kids and not the pleasure of your ex-mother-in-law. And you need to make sure that whatever happens, your kids don't get hurt by arguments and conflicts in your family.My mother n law is coming help?
Your mother doesn't want this woman staying in her home and I think she is right . You have done and said all you can to help your ex mom in-law...so leave it at that. If she wants to see her grand children and spend time with them...then nothing would stop her but sadly it appears she whats to see them on her terms. Stick to your guns and tell your ex he will have to accept it or lump it. This woman is unbelievable in her attitude and your ex is wrong to expect your mom to have her stay in her home. Your ex and his mother seem to like getting their own way !medium hair styles kids hair
He has a 1 bedroom apartment and I live with my mom . I work part time and have the kids with me .
My ex mom n law wants to stay with me . My mom is retired and said NO she needs to stay with her son as we are both on lower incomes and my mom is NOT interested in having my ex mom here except to drop in for a visit .
My ex mom n law is angry she can not stay here and my ex keeps trying to put pressure on my mom and I which I am resenting .
My ex mom wants to spend quality time walking the kids to school etc I told my ex she could book a hotel we only have a few hotels close by and they are pricey....... my mom n law can afford it quite well as she plans to stay in a 5 star hotel before she leaves indulging her self .
I have told my mom n law no and she asked if she could offer my mom some money my mom said NO .
My mom n law asked for the names of friends of ours who live locally or prehaps my other relatives if she could call and ask them if she could stay and she would pay half the hotel price.
My mom n law cant get it through her head and is angry my mom wont let her stay .my mom allows my ex husband to come and stay weekends to visit the kids so I dont have travel 1 hour plus.
What can I do I can not afford to rent a place for my ex mom n law but told her she could rent a holiday house for the month in the area we live and we would come and stay . she said she cant afford it but we all know she can she doesnt want to pay when she can stay somewhere for free .
Any ideas how to diffuse this situation . Last discussion was my ex mom in law was told by my ex to stay with him the whole time she is visiting and i would bring the kids to visit and take them out of school a extra day here and there while she is here.
both children are young and dont like to stay over night with dad which is why he comes here . I am going through alot so my kids can spend time with their Nana and Dad .My mother n law is coming help?
If the home where you stay with your kids belongs to your mom. And she has said 'no' to your ex-mother-in-law. Then there is nothing you can do about it. Because it's not your decision. It's your mother's. And she has already decided.
According to family law, only the parents have parental and visitation rights. And grandparents don't have any such rights at all. Which means that your ex-mother-in-law is in no position to demand visitation of the kids on her own terms. If you have full custody of the kids. Then you have the final say whether she even gets to see the kids or not.
It's best to keep peace in the family for the sake of the kids and everyone else. But you can't please everyone, when people disagree. You just need to remember that your ultimate responsibility is the welfare of your kids and not the pleasure of your ex-mother-in-law. And you need to make sure that whatever happens, your kids don't get hurt by arguments and conflicts in your family.My mother n law is coming help?
Your mother doesn't want this woman staying in her home and I think she is right . You have done and said all you can to help your ex mom in-law...so leave it at that. If she wants to see her grand children and spend time with them...then nothing would stop her but sadly it appears she whats to see them on her terms. Stick to your guns and tell your ex he will have to accept it or lump it. This woman is unbelievable in her attitude and your ex is wrong to expect your mom to have her stay in her home. Your ex and his mother seem to like getting their own way !
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